Friday, May 06, 2005
My first mother's day-- let the festivities begin
I have noticed something-- I feel no real difference in my world now that I am a mother verse knowing about Madeline coming and not physically having her but to the rest of the world I am now officially someone's mother and therefore I have been invited to the party...
literally the tea party at her school....The one where all the mommies talk like we all know what the other is talking about...Which at times it is a universal experience but other things are so innately personal the no other mother could understand them. So, today was my first mother's day experience I went to Maddie's daycare center mother's day tea......
so the tea really was Maddie squirming to get down from my arms and then when I put her down pulling on my pants leg to get back into my arms-- which is a game we seem to play for about 24 hours out of every day :-)
The difference was not really what Maddie thinks of me it was what I THINK about being ME now that I am a mother....and to be honest the only thing I had in common with the women in the room was I am a mother like them-- how we got to be there, our social differences, even our language was different but being a mom well that was the common factor.. WEIRD you spend your whole life trying to find people you have stuff in common with and then you get/have a child and you have something BIG in common with half the planet---:-)
So we sat together and then we all went back to work....And the tea..They didn't even remember to make it-- hehehe they had coffee and muffins but no tea-- :-)
As this weekend starts I have been thinking a lot about my entering this mommy world and the BIGGEST changes in me have been related to my family... The ideas I have about the women in my life who have helped raise me ...Aunts, teachers, and grandmothers and most importantly for me my mother & my sister...They are who really have helped turned me from some lady who is adopting a child and into a mother...two VERY different experiences..... And it has not been over the past few motnhs that they have had this impact -- it has been over the past 33 years--- WEIRD that you are training for a job you never even think about until it is upon you... Well let me say that I hope Madeline is as lucky as I am because I truly believe it take a village or a community or a planet to raise a child
She already has some solid people in her life...Her birth mother who is brave enough to give her a better life, the orphanage who helped her grow into the infant we "got" ; the women in her day care center-- Alex and Jasmine who are EXTREMELY important to both of us...Her Grandma Marlene who is perhaps the most important person she will ever meet cause what Grandma Marlene taught to me I am now teaching to Madeline,
Her Nana,
her Aunt Alana
Aunt Jen
Aunt Sara
Aunt Karin
Aunt Debbie
Aunt Judy
Aunt Erica
Aunt Robin
Aunt Randie
Aunt Jen K.
Aunt Sharon--
WOW look at all the AMAZING women she gets to meet and only in just 1 year on this planet--
So on this weekend where I get to celebrate my finally becoming Maddie's mother I want to thank all of you as well as G-d for this experience cause the fact is that I feel like the luckiest woman every day and now I even get to celebrate a special day- well overall that is pretty cool :-enough babbling- Sheira
literally the tea party at her school....The one where all the mommies talk like we all know what the other is talking about...Which at times it is a universal experience but other things are so innately personal the no other mother could understand them. So, today was my first mother's day experience I went to Maddie's daycare center mother's day tea......
so the tea really was Maddie squirming to get down from my arms and then when I put her down pulling on my pants leg to get back into my arms-- which is a game we seem to play for about 24 hours out of every day :-)
The difference was not really what Maddie thinks of me it was what I THINK about being ME now that I am a mother....and to be honest the only thing I had in common with the women in the room was I am a mother like them-- how we got to be there, our social differences, even our language was different but being a mom well that was the common factor.. WEIRD you spend your whole life trying to find people you have stuff in common with and then you get/have a child and you have something BIG in common with half the planet---:-)
So we sat together and then we all went back to work....And the tea..They didn't even remember to make it-- hehehe they had coffee and muffins but no tea-- :-)
As this weekend starts I have been thinking a lot about my entering this mommy world and the BIGGEST changes in me have been related to my family... The ideas I have about the women in my life who have helped raise me ...Aunts, teachers, and grandmothers and most importantly for me my mother & my sister...They are who really have helped turned me from some lady who is adopting a child and into a mother...two VERY different experiences..... And it has not been over the past few motnhs that they have had this impact -- it has been over the past 33 years--- WEIRD that you are training for a job you never even think about until it is upon you... Well let me say that I hope Madeline is as lucky as I am because I truly believe it take a village or a community or a planet to raise a child
She already has some solid people in her life...Her birth mother who is brave enough to give her a better life, the orphanage who helped her grow into the infant we "got" ; the women in her day care center-- Alex and Jasmine who are EXTREMELY important to both of us...Her Grandma Marlene who is perhaps the most important person she will ever meet cause what Grandma Marlene taught to me I am now teaching to Madeline,
Her Nana,
her Aunt Alana
Aunt Jen
Aunt Sara
Aunt Karin
Aunt Debbie
Aunt Judy
Aunt Erica
Aunt Robin
Aunt Randie
Aunt Jen K.
Aunt Sharon--
WOW look at all the AMAZING women she gets to meet and only in just 1 year on this planet--
So on this weekend where I get to celebrate my finally becoming Maddie's mother I want to thank all of you as well as G-d for this experience cause the fact is that I feel like the luckiest woman every day and now I even get to celebrate a special day- well overall that is pretty cool :-enough babbling- Sheira
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